Change is something that affects everyone in a variety of ways. It is something that we go through all of our lives, and it can be very smooth and easy, or it can be difficult and trying. These various changes help to shape us and make us who we are. Change is something that I have been dealing with and even struggling with over the past few years, not only watching others change around me, but seeing how I have changed through various situations. Change is inevitable.
One major thing I have learned is that you can't change people. No matter how much you may try, the only way a person can change is if they made the decision to change themselves. I'm the type of person that if something is wrong between me and a friend, I feel the need to fix it and to make it better. In order for a relationship to work, both people have to be willing to put effort in and be willing to work together. You can't change how other people act or how they choose to live their lives. The only person we can chance is ourselves. This was so hard for me to learn; I can only make choices for me and no one else.
Another main change that many of us deal with and that I have been dealing with is the change of myself. Graduating and coming to college is in itself a major change, and in the semester and a half that I have been at college, I have already changed a lot. My outlook on people and life has changed a lot for the better, but it interesting to look back at how I was last year and see how I am now. College is a time when people find out who they are apart from those that they have grown up with and apart from their families. It allows us to find out what we believe for ourselves because we are on our own. This is a change that I feel everyone should go through at one point or another.
What I would like those who read this blog to get out of it is this: change is vital. Another this is to realize that you can't change people. If people around you are bringing you down, as hard as it is and as much as it may hurt you, the only thing you can do is change yourself. A lot of times, change is very hard to go through and at the time we may not realize how these changes could possibly be helpful to us, but in the end they will make us stronger.
I really like this post because it seems that so often we see personal change as something we need to avoid. We feel like if we change we may simply lose what defines us, instead of understanding in order to develop and grow sometimes certain things in our lives must be pruned away. There are some things that we should be grounded in and unwilling to change, but there are also other areas where change is essential and very beneficial.
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